Compassion Meditation for the Holidays

As the days grow dimmer and colder, I see nature coiling back unto herself.

I can see her removing her makeup as the leaves fall, casting down her clothes as the ground becomes a sea of mud rather than the lush green of summer. I look at the trees as they shun the outside world and retreat deep into themselves, deep into the roots, knowing here is where they will gather the spark to awaken again.

And so, it is no surprise that we mirror this movement as well. It is this holiday season where all of us gather -or remember gatherings- with our own kin. After all, our families are the seed of us all… and in this season we make our ways back to them, either through travel or through memory.

In this time, I wish your heart to be open to love, I wish you a merry welcome and a time of celebration, and I know that for most of us, this time is a thorny one.

I trust your heart to recognize the moments of love that spring towards you, I trust you to receive them, to cherish them… and for those other times… the times when you might encounter tension or arguments, where your voice might be overlooked, or where you might recognize that you are dealing with someone’s shadow or wounds…. for this times, I offer you a compassion meditation.

I first came up with this meditation after reading a wonderful book called ‘The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships’ by Susan Piver. A read that I recommend whole-heartedly for all of us committed to a loving, conscious relationship.

I won’t spoil it for you, but I can say that cultivating compassion is key in creating the space where such relationships would flourish. This is true for our family relations, as well.

A compassionate practice allows us to remain aligned to love, to remain masterful of ourselves and in touch with our divine wisdom, no matter the circumstance.

Loving-Kindness Meditation for Family

Take a few deep breaths, allowing your breath to guide you to a place deep within yourself.

Picture yourself in your mind’s eye and take a moment to honor your heart’s desire for love, for experiencing happiness, and acknowledge yourself for all that you do in your life. Now, say in your mind:

May I be healthy, May I be happy, May I know love, May I be at peace, May I have ease. 

As you bathe yourself in light, you are bringing love and compassion to yourself. Now we will expand our compassion circle by thinking of someone in your family whom you love.

Call them to mind. Dwell on how they too are doing their best to find love and happiness, to live a full life. Send your love and compassion to this person.

May you be healthy, May you be happy, May you know love, May you be at peace, May you have ease.

As you bathe them in light, you are bringing compassion to them. Now we will expand our compassion circle by thinking of someone in your family to whom you are neutral towards.

It might be a relative that you are not particularly close to or someone you know only by name. Call them to mind. Dwell on how they too are doing their best to find love and happiness, to live a full life. Send your love and compassion to this person.

May you be healthy, May you be happy, May you know love, May you be at peace, May you have ease.

As you bathe them in light, you are bringing compassion to them. Now we will expand our compassion circle by thinking of someone in your family with whom the relationship is torn. It can be someone who has always been difficult or someone who made a harsh remark just now. Trust your heart to show you the right person to bring in.

Call them to mind. Dwell on how they too are doing their best to find love and happiness, to live a full life. Send your love and compassion to this person.

May you be healthy, May you be happy, May you know love, May you be at peace, May you have ease.

As you bathe them in light, you are bringing compassion to them. Now we will expand our compassion circle by calling to mind you entire family. Those who are on this earth and those who have passed away.

Call them to mind. Dwell on how they too value love and happiness. Send your love and compassion to them.

May all my family be healthy, May all my family be happy, May all my family know love, May all my family be at peace, May all my family have ease.

As you bathe them in light, you are bringing compassion to them. Now we will expand our compassion circle to include all living beings on this earth.

Call them to mind. Dwell on how they too value love and happiness. Send your love and compassion to them.

May all living beings be healthy, May all living beings be happy, May all living beings know love, May all living beings be at peace, May all living beings have ease.

Take one last deep breath and feel your heart as you come back into normal, waking consciousness. Well done.

I wish this meditation brings you peace, spaciousness and love throughout this holiday season. My best wishes are with you.

Happy Holidays.

Andrea

What’s behind your debt? The Hidden Cost of Money Loss

As a healer, I’ve always been interested in the energy of money. We spend so much of our lives earning it or managing it that it often can shape the very experience of our everyday life.

And yet, it is crucial to remember that money does not exist.

It is purely a social creation, a figment of our imagination that we have integrated into our systemic agreements.

Hence, money resembles the thinking that creates it.

In the same way that a child will physically look like both its parents, money takes on the characteristics of the society that creates it AS WELL as the energetic imprint from our own personal beliefs and life experiences.

It is important to highlight that your energy is not the only one that shapes money, that it already lives inside of a knowing field that shapes it (aka capitalism, financial gender inequality, etc). It would be disempowering to think that all your money woes come from your own limiting beliefs.

They don’t.

But you ARE powerful enough to shift your money experience in a way that makes your own personal reality unrecognizable.

How? by healing the energetic dynamics around it. Let’s take debt as an example: If your debt was created as a survival mechanism rather than an investment, then likely you carry a level of guilt about it.

Maybe your business went under, or the student-loan didn’t result in a high-paying job, maybe there were medical expenses to cover…in conclusion, something unexpected (likely painful) took place and you needed help to overcome it.

It is this last factor that can, sometimes, bring a retaliation from our subconsious mind… bringing in thoughts such as “I should have seen it coming”, “I should have been a better saver”, “someone else would have handled it better”.

These thoughts are the ones that will, from then on, shape our financial reality. If I believe I am not a good saver, I will create a reality where money doesn’t make it into my savings.

If I should have anticipated the event, I might covertly punish myself with long hours, low pay or too many financial obligations.

If I believe someone else would have averted this experience I might continuously relinquish my financial power in an attempt to create safety around me.

… and these beliefs can carry on even after we have settled our financial debt.

It is by engaging with these beliefs and our history of financial trauma that we can take steps towards a future that is distinct from our past experiences.

This is where Flower Essences and Family Constellations really shine.

The energetic medicine of the Flower Essences can bring peace to the hidden hurt, loss, and confusion generated by those events, and Family Constellations can shed light upon and shift any resulting beliefs, even if those beliefs originated from events that happened before our lifetime, carried over from our ancestral line.

It’s as we shift these beliefs that we become free to enjoy a life of plentiful, of healthy financial flow.

Healing the Fork in the Road

There are moments in our lives that define us. When we look back and see the threshold that we crossed.

If luck was watching over us, we look back with pride, with awe perhaps, and commemorate the orchestra of events that came together in that moment: That party that you almost missed, where you met your spouse. That job that you almost didn’t apply for but turned out to be your passion. That coffee with a friend that changed you… These moments are magic.

Except when they are not. When we don’t feel like we crossed a threshold but more like we bombed a bridge…our own… and no matter how much time goes by we can hear the whispers of that moment playing in the back.

Continue reading Healing the Fork in the Road

Touched by Loss – Healing on the Wake of Grief

A few weeks ago my hubby and I went to watch the movie Wind River. I was struck by every aspect of this movie, but one scene has been replaying in my mind since. The parents of the missing girl have just learned of her horrible death. The main character, Cory, who is a family friend, is standing on the porch with Martin, the girl’s father, and he says:

I’d like to tell you it gets easier, but it doesn’t. If there’s a comfort — you get used to the pain if you let yourself … I went to a grief seminar in Casper. Don’t know why,  just … It hurt so much, I was searching for anything that could make it go away … Continue reading Touched by Loss – Healing on the Wake of Grief

Painting the Invisible: Translating Energy Healing

I consider myself an energy artist. I’ve weaved my life around understanding all things energetic: emotions, secrets, blocks, healing, divination… you name it. Of those many paths I fell in love with the art of dialoguing with energy (aka intuitive readings) and healing. I am inspired by the feeling of communing with something unseen and I am filled with gratitude for the effects I saw in those who received it.

Readings are insightful, fun and, since cards are one of my tools, tangible. Healing energy is very tangible for the one doing it, as it is for the one receiving it and the effects are easy to spot. So far so good, but I’ve always felt frustrated by my inability to convey this to those who have yet to try it. I’ve often exclaimed “What beautiful energy” or “I wish I could show you how this energy looks”… finally I’ve decided to try! Continue reading Painting the Invisible: Translating Energy Healing

A Manifestation Affair

In one of my recent sessions, I shared with a young woman the synchronistic chain of events that led to me and my husband finding the beautiful home we now live in. Afterwards I received a lovely email from  her commenting how inspired she felt by this story and asked if I would be willing to share some words on my healing and stories such as that one.

I was thrilled with the idea. It was such a rich topic yet it felt that I would be selling it short if I focused solely on how things came to me and not on the inner-learning that opened the door to them. You see, the more I pondered on the events that led me to find this jewel of a house, to do work I love and marry a man I love deeply, the more I realize I was doing less manifesting and more co-creating. Continue reading A Manifestation Affair